Unhappy Thread

stevewalker · December 03, 2024, 12:49:05 AM

Sister in law was diagnosed with cancer 1st December 2023 (same day our cat was run over and killed). After a year of struggles, chemo, operations, more chemo and worsening problems, she died at 06:30 on 1st December 2024.

alypar11 · December 03, 2024, 03:52:29 AM

Oh Steve. So sorry to hear about the loss of your Sister in law. It's very difficult for those who have to watch their friends and relatives go through such painful times. If you are in the whirlwind of diagnosis and treatment yourself, you are very much boosted by the support of those around you. It's very sad that it has come to an end but give yourself permission to grieve now, having probably been very supportive in hope of a better outcome.

crewearpley40 · December 03, 2024, 05:39:14 AM

Please accept our condolences, prayers and thoughts are with you all steve

dannyboy · December 03, 2024, 10:23:03 AM

So sorry to hear about your sister in law Steve. Such a terrible thing to happen. My condolences.

Papyrus · December 03, 2024, 12:57:15 PM

There's never a good time to lose someone but just before Christmas is the worst. My condolences and good wishes to you and your family.

Chris

stevewalker · December 03, 2024, 02:01:08 PM

Thank you all.

She is at least at peace now and we are over the constant hospital visits and stays with her of the previous 9 nights and trying to take it all in.

Now my wife has all but finished the phone calls to friends and family and we are on to the funeral preparations.

port perran · December 03, 2024, 05:51:02 PM

So sorry to hear this news.

lil chris · December 13, 2024, 11:01:49 AM

Sorry to hear of your loss Steve, I am one of the lucky ones. I was declared clear of cancer in October this year, luckily for me it was diagnosed early.
Chris H.

stevewalker · December 18, 2024, 08:10:42 PM

After a fortnight of preparation - hindered somewhat by her partner, who cannot stand any mention of her deceased husband or one of her children (a dangerous guy with a personality disorder), on one side and the said son on the other, my wife and I, along with her other son, got everything organised and the funeral went very well yesterday.

In a way it has been lucky, I ended up out of work at the beginning of November (partly because the client messed up and failed to get my pass organised for months and partly because they were worried that I'd need too much time off at a critical period) and my new job won't start 'til after Christmas. That made it easier to deal with the multiple times a day (and night) hospital visits, my wife's upset and the organisation of the last few weeks.

Anyway, we're looking forward to Christmas and a new year.

Newportnobby · December 18, 2024, 09:31:51 PM

It seems wrong to put 'peaceful' and 'stress free' in the same sentence as 'Christmas', but I hope you get the Christmas you want. Having lost my Mum and a sister in the last 2 years I tend to find family gatherings don't mean what they used to.

stevewalker · December 19, 2024, 12:58:42 AM

I'm sorry to hear that. I've been lucky, both my parents are still alive and well, in their mid and late 80s, while my wife lost her father 24 years ago, her mother 18 years ago and now her sister. Our nephew is also having a bad time - his mother's funeral yesterday and his wife's grandmother's funeral this Friday.

It just seems to be the way it goes - nothing for years and then 2 or three in the same year.

Bealman · December 19, 2024, 03:24:44 AM

For those of you who tuned in to my UK23 thread, you may recall me mentioning my mate in NZ who topped up 100 different racecourses. I just got news yesterday that he has been diagnosed with dementia.

I'm quite devastated as he has been me best mate since 1964, and we have seen each other frequently in cross-Tasman trips. He was best man at my wedding and he was a guest at my daughter's wedding in 2017.

Spoilt me Christmas a bit, for sure. Looks like I'll be NZ bound next year.

Getting old sucks.

Newportnobby · December 19, 2024, 05:12:26 AM

Quote from: Bealman on December 19, 2024, 03:24:44 AMGetting old sucks.

Amen, Brother

April 2021 - had to have my cat and soul mate put down
April 2022 - my Mum passed away within a week of falling and breaking her hip
April 2023 - one of my sisters collapsed and died at my side in the supermarket

April 2024 - I virtually hibernated and I ain't looking forward to any April going forward

Bealman · December 19, 2024, 06:16:57 AM

Ah, you'll be alreet, Mick.

Graham · December 19, 2024, 11:08:56 PM

Quote from: Bealman on December 19, 2024, 03:24:44 AMFor those of you who tuned in to my UK23 thread, you may recall me mentioning my mate in NZ who topped up 100 different racecourses. I just got news yesterday that he has been diagnosed with dementia.

I'm quite devastated as he has been me best mate since 1964, and we have seen each other frequently in cross-Tasman trips. He was best man at my wedding and he was a guest at my daughter's wedding in 2017.

Spoilt me Christmas a bit, for sure. Looks like I'll be NZ bound next year.

Getting old sucks.

totally agree, hope you get over early to see him.