Local Club Dilemma

[scottmitchell74]

I have a number of dilemmas; some are practical and some are my problem.

Local clubs can seem like a good place to try things out,learn, etc...

The local club here though is mostly HO.
They have a small N Scale layout, but so do I. Soon I'll have two.

Dues - $240/year may be cheap, but that's a couple locos or other needed stock.

Building and maintaining at the club. I enjoy working on my layouts, but for some difficult (to me) tasks I only have so much bandwidth, and I'd like to use that time/energy on my projects.

Finally. I've attempted to socialize with this group before. 
I'm socially awkward enough as it is. It's too much dorkiness in one place!!  I feel like a jerk but I can't handle the... oddness.

Anyhow. Just a discussion with the only people on earth I can run this by.

It seems that in the UK these clubs are a bigger deal and more successful.