AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGG! Pt 2

[MikeDunn]

There is only one one Mrs Walters

So far ... if there isn't a railway room in the offing, I wonder if this may change ... 

two of these rooms are suitable, ( according to the blah) for double bed,  ( we have a king), the other is in my view a large cupboard, the present Mrs Walters ( first) has inplied that it will make a "great" sewing room.

So ... the "large" rooms are obviously unsuitable to you - as to the "sewing room", I had this (or rather, SWMBO did) in our London house; it lasted all of 6 months before "oh, you have lots of room in your study, I need more space so I'll join you there  ".  Granted, a single bed (let alone a set of drawers) would have swamped the room, but ...

You have been warned ...

[d-a-n]

Move up north and you'll be able to buy a bigger gaff ;-)

[Graham Walters]

There is only one one Mrs Walters

So far ... if there isn't a railway room in the offing, I wonder if this may change ... 

two of these rooms are suitable, ( according to the blah) for double bed,  ( we have a king), the other is in my view a large cupboard, the present Mrs Walters ( first) has inplied that it will make a "great" sewing room.

So ... the "large" rooms are obviously unsuitable to you - as to the "sewing room", I had this (or rather, SWMBO did) in our London house; it lasted all of 6 months before "oh, you have lots of room in your study, I need more space so I'll join you there  ".  Granted, a single bed (let alone a set of drawers) would have swamped the room, but ...

You have been warned ...

One room would constitute our bedroom, I'm a keen modeller, but not even I want a layout in my bedroom, I'm 58 not 8.

The second bedroom would be a "guest" room, you know what I mean, it just sits there looking good full of all the chintzy stuff I don't feel a need for in Our bedroom.

[Graham Walters]

Move up north and you'll be able to buy a bigger gaff ;-)

Good idea...but a bit of a commute for the day job !

[MikeDunn]

Good idea...but a bit of a commute for the day job !

You could do what I did - get a job that allows you to work from home over VPN    That way you can be anywhere, not stuck in a limited area.  About the only work-related requirement I have is decent DSL or fibre connectivity, and access to good road/rail links.

[Graham Walters]

Good idea...but a bit of a commute for the day job !

You could do what I did - get a job that allows you to work from home over VPN    That way you can be anywhere, not stuck in a limited area.  About the only work-related requirement I have is decent DSL or fibre connectivity, and access to good road/rail links.

Bit difficult for some one who works for Royal Mail !

Jobs like yours never seem to come my way 

[MikeDunn]

Bit difficult for some one who works for Royal Mail !

True ... (I'll let someone else mention email  )

[Mr Sprue]

For what its worth sounds like this 'out of the box' house is no way suited for you both, and of course not the only house in the world for sale.

The way I see things the both of you together should be looking forward to buying this house, clearly your not so why go along with the decision and moving to somewhere where you are not going to happy?    Doesn't make sense to me!

[David Asquith]

I think Mr Sprue has hit the nail on the head!

Dave

[trkilliman]

My wife and I often talk about moving. well downsizing as we could manage in a 2 bed house in the not too distant future.
We have our respective hobbies/passions. Mine being N gauge and tropical fish, my wife's being numerous crafts. Garden sheds provide us with our "own space"

We both agree that moving from our lovely home would have to be to somewhere we could continue with our hobbies. So a reasonable sized flat garden for the erection of a couple of quality sheds would be high on the list.

Neither of us are overly interested in each others hobbies, but we actively encourage each other to pursue them.

We think that it's important for people to be active in their hobbies, achieving satisfaction and a calmness that comes from it.

[austinbob]

Neither of us are overly interested in each others hobbies, but we actively encourage each other to pursue them.

We think that it's important for people to be active in their hobbies, achieving satisfaction and a calmness that comes from it.

My sentiments exactly. 

[Papyrus]

As I see it there are 3 possible solutions:

1. Just say no. This may require couching in more diplomatic terms.

2. As others have suggested, point out that you both want to be happy in your new abode, and you at least require somewhere with a bigger garden where you can erect a proper man-cave.

3. If the house is truly the house of her dreams, I suggest you make the sewing-room dual-occupancy. She can have it for crafts Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday. You have it for railways Thursday, Friday and Saturday. On Sundays you both go to the pub. Problem solved. 

My invoice for my usual consultancy fee is in the post.

Chris

[oreamnos]

Amusing thread.

What I don't understand is "downsizing."  Neither does my wife, to be honest.

We've  heard people talk about this before, especially after their kids move out.  Why would anyone want to give up space in a big house to move into a smaller home?  You end up with less room for storage, for knitting, for crafts, for train layouts - for everything.  You also can't get away from your wife in a small home, and she from you.  Makes no sense to us, but then neither does moving house just for the sake of it!  But to each his own.

When my wife and I retire we have planned on moving back "home" (as she calls it; I'm a Yankee), but we are actually aiming to move to a bigger house, not a smaller one.  She wants a dedicated room for her crafts and I want one for my trains.  At the moment, we have no spare room for either.

Good luck!

Matt

[Dorsetmike]

When you get past 80 and your wife passed on a few years back, a large 8 room house with fair sized garden gets to be rather more than one can decently manage solo, hence me downsizing to a 2 bedroom apartment, or should I say 1 bedroom 1 railway room and a living room bathroom & kitchen. It's all I need, much easier to keep clean and costs way less in fuel, plus a few grand from house sale, so more cash available for trains.

[oreamnos]

That makes perfect sense, Mike.  As life moves on it makes sense to move with it.

I still don't understand why one would go smaller without having a similar reason, but as I said, to each his own.

Matt