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Title: Grahame Hedges (Father deceased)
Post by: petercharlesfagg on September 06, 2015, 05:41:37 PM
I have just received a message from Graham Hedges that his father has  been in hospital and unfortunately has just died.

I feel sure that almost everyone will want to present him with their condolences.

Peter.
Title: Re: Grahame Hedges (Father deceased)
Post by: Bob Tidbury on September 06, 2015, 07:41:16 PM
Very sorry to hear the news it's never a nice thing and  as Peter says I'm sure we all send our condolences .
Title: Re: Grahame Hedges (Father deceased)
Post by: DJM Dave on September 06, 2015, 07:42:55 PM
It's never nice when this happens, and I echo Bobs comments here.
Cheers
Dave
Title: Re: Grahame Hedges (Father deceased)
Post by: Mustermark on September 07, 2015, 02:11:11 AM
Sorry to hear your sad news, Graham. Wishing you strength at this very difficult time.
Mark
Title: Re: Grahame Hedges (Father deceased)
Post by: ToothFairy on September 07, 2015, 08:53:19 AM
Sincere condolences from here, too. Sad news, whenever it comes.

- Michael
Title: Re: Grahame Hedges (Father deceased)
Post by: silly moo on September 07, 2015, 10:42:17 AM
Deepest sympathies from me too. All of the best during this difficult time.
Title: Re: Grahame Hedges (Father deceased)
Post by: Tank on September 07, 2015, 10:48:18 AM
Very sad news to hear.

Just to let members know, Mr Hedges isn't a member on this forum, so probably won't see your messages.
Title: Re: Grahame Hedges (Father deceased)
Post by: ToothFairy on September 07, 2015, 01:20:27 PM
Umm . . . he used to be, and apparently still is.

- Michael
Title: Re: Grahame Hedges (Father deceased)
Post by: JimF on October 04, 2015, 01:45:39 PM
Seems he was banned from here, for some reason?

Silly for folks to post condolences here, if that is so.

Jim F
Title: Re: Grahame Hedges (Father deceased)
Post by: Roy L S on October 04, 2015, 01:52:45 PM
Quote from: JimF on October 04, 2015, 01:45:39 PM
Seems he was banned from here, for some reason?

Silly for folks to post condolences here, if that is so.

Jim F

Even if not a member almost the entire Forum is viewable to anyone as a "guest" so the gesture would not be entirely pointless.

I am sure that many "silly folks" (me included albeit I didn't see this to pass on my condolences) were not aware that Grahame was "banned" or for whatever other reason ceased to be a member. He was a member here for a fair while I feel sure??

Regards

Roy

Title: Re: Grahame Hedges (Father deceased)
Post by: petercharlesfagg on October 04, 2015, 03:47:50 PM
Quote from: JimF on October 04, 2015, 01:45:39 PM
Seems he was banned from here, for some reason?

Silly for folks to post condolences here, if that is so.

Jim F

Not long ago the donations were being redirected to someone of whom I have no knowledge whatsoever, BUT it wasn't important.

Just like this it is another human being who is suffering from the loss of a loved one.

If it is that terrible then why bother replying negatively?

If it were my worst enemy I couldn't possibly imagine just ignoring the fact that his/her family is suffering, my condolences would be open handed, ALWAYS ready to welcome back a fellow human regardless of his/her convictions.

Many will say that I am wrong but why should I care, it is after all only another human being!

Grahame Hedges is a complete unknown to me, the ONLY dealings I have had with him have been good/interesting/debatable etc. but any failings are far outweighed by the good things.

There are those on this forum and on the other Twelve that I support whose opinions/lifestyle/messages etc. make me cringe but I MUST accept them for who they are not what I want them to be.

(Steps down from soapbox)

Peter.
Title: Re: Grahame Hedges (Father deceased)
Post by: JimF on October 11, 2015, 02:24:03 PM
My apologies, for using perhaps the wrong term. 'Silly' was not appropriate, perhaps 'pointless' would have been better.

My point was that Mr. Hedges would not see said condolences. I read the news here, but sent my condolence message direct to him, since I knew he was not on this forum any longer.

He can be prickly, and he and I have had differences, in the past, yet I admire his taking on the NGS Journal, and have admired his skills as a modeller.

Obviously, something he said or did has gotten him banned from this forum.

Jim Flynn
Title: Re: Grahame Hedges (Father deceased)
Post by: Malc on October 11, 2015, 03:19:09 PM
As are as I remember, Graham wasn't banned. He had some disagreements and decided to leave.
Title: Re: Grahame Hedges (Father deceased)
Post by: JimF on October 11, 2015, 03:50:57 PM
According to Grahame, he stayed away from the forum for about a year, his choice. When he did decide to log on, he found he was banned. His explanation, on the Yahoo N Gauge list.

Jim Flynn
Title: Re: Grahame Hedges (Father deceased)
Post by: D1042 Western Princess on October 11, 2015, 08:44:56 PM
I hope I will be forgiven for returning this thread to topic but, having lost my own father a few years ago, I know how Grahame must be feeling, regardless of whether he was 'banned' or just 'left'.
My sympathies and thoughts are with him and his family; you are in pain now, but believe me, that passes and only happy thoughts remain.
Regards,
Greg
Title: Re: Grahame Hedges (Father deceased)
Post by: Mr Sprue on October 11, 2015, 09:35:31 PM
Quote from: JimF on October 11, 2015, 03:50:57 PM
According to Grahame, he stayed away from the forum for about a year, his choice. When he did decide to log on, he found he was banned. His explanation, on the Yahoo N Gauge list.

Jim Flynn

Can you provide a link to this list?
Title: Re: Grahame Hedges (Father deceased)
Post by: Tank on October 11, 2015, 10:00:48 PM
There are two sides to a story of course.  ;)  He didn't stay away from the forum for a year, but was in fact not posting for 18 months after being upset, but continued logging on.  I have no problem with that.

I don't ban anyone on here without a reason, and rarely have to.  I won't go into details as that's between Grahame and myself to sort out if he so wishes.  I'm always approachable as many of you would know.
Title: Re: Grahame Hedges (Father deceased)
Post by: JimF on October 14, 2015, 01:51:12 PM
The below link is for the Yahoo N Gauge group. One must have a Yahooo account to join.

Tank, if this is breaking any rule, feel free to delete.

https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/ngauge/info

Jim F