Wedding gift

upnick · September 06, 2011, 09:02:56 PM

Hi All,

In just over a week i have a wedding to go to both work with me & they have got all they need between them for their home etc & have said in their invites they dont have a gift list at all but anyone feels they want to give a gift of cash it wouldnt go amiss, which it never does of course not as much thought but still a gift, my question is what do you all think is a reasonable gift of cash to them on their wedding day given i think a lot of them & am very happy they are getting together.

4x2 · September 06, 2011, 09:15:09 PM

That's an awkward one... I would say a tenner is too tight and £100 is too much, best bet i think is £60 - £80ish. That way you would seam to be doing your bit, without trying to out shine the other guests - unless of course you're all minted, in which case you best add a zero !

Best of luck !

longbridge · September 06, 2011, 09:36:57 PM

I'm not keen on that cash business, what we do is buy a voucher to be redeemed at a shop, for example our Grandkids get a $20 voucher to spend at a record shop, our kids buy us a voucher to be spent at a supermarket chain where we can buy clothes or food, I assume you can do that back home

poliss · September 06, 2011, 09:40:41 PM

I was just thinking the same myself. I'd have been far too embarassed to ask for cash. For my second wedding I asked for a mains plug.

Newportnobby · September 06, 2011, 09:41:05 PM

Hi Nick - I think it depends on how long you have known/been working with them. If a short time I would go £20 but if it's a while and (as you're invited to the wedding) they are good friends/colleagues I wouldn't go less than £50-£75 if your pocket will stand it. I know you say you think a lot of them, and I think if it was me I would consider that a generous gift.
I bet they haven't got a collection of NGF mugs

4x2 · September 06, 2011, 09:42:14 PM

Quote from: newportnobby on September 06, 2011, 09:41:05 PM
Hi Nick - I think it depends on how long you have known/been working with them. If a short time I would go £20 but if it's a while and (as you're invited to the wedding) they are good friends/colleagues I wouldn't go less than £50-£75 if your pocket will stand it. I know you say you think a lot of them, and I think if it was me I would consider that a generous gift.
I bet they haven't got a collection of NGF mugs

Nice plug !

longbridge · September 06, 2011, 09:47:41 PM

Quote from: poliss on September 06, 2011, 09:40:41 PM
I was just thinking the same myself. I'd have beeb far too embarassed to ask for cash. For my second wedding I asked for a mains plug.

Good for you Poliss, I know when I got Married the 3rd time I was just happy to see somebody turn up.

Newportnobby · September 06, 2011, 09:53:23 PM

Quote from: 4x2ybecauseican on September 06, 2011, 09:42:14 PM
Quote from: newportnobby on September 06, 2011, 09:41:05 PM
I bet they haven't got a collection of NGF mugs
Nice plug !

Yeah - I nicked it off Poliss

4x2 · September 06, 2011, 09:56:07 PM

Quote from: newportnobby on September 06, 2011, 09:53:23 PM
Quote from: 4x2ybecauseican on September 06, 2011, 09:42:14 PM
Quote from: newportnobby on September 06, 2011, 09:41:05 PM
I bet they haven't got a collection of NGF mugs
Nice plug !

Yeah - I nicked it off Poliss

Glad you spotted it...!!!

Chris · September 06, 2011, 10:08:00 PM

If you know where they are going on honeymoon then you could always get some money in the currency of their honeymoon destination. We've done that several times, usually around £30-£50 depending on how close family/friends they are.

findus · September 06, 2011, 10:33:10 PM

Quote from: Chris on September 06, 2011, 10:08:00 PM
If you know where they are going on honeymoon then you could always get some money in the currency of their honeymoon destination. We've done that several times, usually around £30-£50 depending on how close family/friends they are.

This is the best option!! having just been married any money you get you put into the bank only to cover the cost of the wedding, we asked for honeymoon funds and ended up with just under 1000 euro`s

if everybody did the same thats an amazing amount to have wile away and gives you plenty of options

Or even better still buy them a chomp each

upnick · September 06, 2011, 10:44:41 PM

Quote from: Chris on September 06, 2011, 10:08:00 PM
If you know where they are going on honeymoon then you could always get some money in the currency of their honeymoon destination. We've done that several times, usually around £30-£50 depending on how close family/friends they are.

I'd never thought of this option Chris i'm going to have to find out where they 're going for their honeymoon.

EtchedPixels · September 06, 2011, 11:58:14 PM

If it needs to be model rail themed how about a bag of peco wheels and a note saying that after the wedding bill arrives it'll be the only 'new wheels' he can afford for a while

Sithlord75 · September 07, 2011, 07:19:32 AM

It seems to be a bit of a trend - probably due to people remarrying or waiting for while. What we do is give a cut crystal vase. The logic is you never seem to have enough vases (at least around here we don't!) and then it is something which can become an heirloom in years to come. We have a few bits and pieces (we only had a small wedding of less than 50 - and that included my cousins kids etc) and didn't need stuff (combining two households worth of gear - neither of us had been married before but we had both left home!) so the few things we have (we got cash too - which was handy but...) are very special as we can point to them as say "so and so gave that to us for our wedding".

Just a thought.

michael · September 07, 2011, 07:33:45 AM

sorry if its already been suggested but what about gift vouchers rather than cash? Or have I just made things worse?